Did you wake up in a panic? Trauma Parenting 101!

parenting Dec 20, 2022
What you need to know about being a parent with your own trauma. Ruby and Star standing looking at the camera

The Holiday Season is in full swing which often translates for many parents in our culture unfortunate added stress, LOTS of family planning and interactions as well as school breaks with feral children taking over the house and running amok. We've got a few solutions and a sale... so keep reading!


 

 

 

ALL THE FUN!!! 🤣

Something that also tends to creep up around this time is (drum roll please)....

You guessed it, your trauma!! Having a history of trauma, chronic stress, adversity or struggling with your mental health while simultaneously having to be a parent can be a real sh*t storm at a minimum. Compound that with holiday madness - it’s enough to put you over the edge.

We want to help with preventing just that!!!

As parents we often don’t realize the way trauma can insidiously creep into our relationships with our children causing an added bonus of stress and overwhelm.

Whether you want to admit it or not, parents and caregivers are notorious for projecting their sh*t onto the children we raise (teachers, we see you do it too!) — and it’s ok... because without the awareness of it, how would any of us know any better? Awareness is often the first step to healing, change and transformation.

One of the biggest challenges with being a parent (or caregiver) and having a history of trauma is we often muddle the dynamic between adult and child. Meaning as a parent or caregiver we don’t know where we end and they begin emotionally and energetically– this alone is a breeding ground for codependency and anxiety ridden exchanges.

Trauma Parenting often looks like:

  • Worried about your children all the time or obsessed with ideas that something bad might happen to them.
  • Lots of anxiety just in general when it comes to your kids
  • Feeling triggered.... a lot
  • Feeling regularly stressed, overwhelmed or perhaps have thoughts on repeat like: “I’m just not cut out for this.”
  • Feeling the constant need to control anything and everything aka overbearing
  • on the flip side, feeling detached from your child(ren) because being too close feels too triggering.
  • Always feeling guilty 🤦🏻‍♀️
  • Trying really hard to be your kid’s best friend and not their parent
  • Endless power dynamics and emotional breakdowns

If you’re reading this and it sounds way too familiar, you’re not alone. All it means is that you might have some work to do and you can thank your kids for showing you the places that still need healing.

We often want to give our children the world but the most undeniable, best gift we can give to our kids is a parent who is actively working on themselves, course correcting and demonstrating self-care by prioritizing their own mental health above anything else.

This is where we’ve got you covered. Just in time for the holiday mayhem we're offering our Nurtured Heart Approach masterclass, Transforming the Intense Child and Becoming A More Awesome You, for free!! It will offer you immediate insight and practical support on what you can start doing right now to shift up your parent/child relationship in a way that is simple and sustainable. You'll learn:

💜 The 4 Myths that are ruining your relationship with your kid or the kids in your classroom!

💛 The 4 truths that lead to guilt-free, shame-free parenting (and teaching)!

❤️ What Nurtured Heart Approach is and how it's different from every other parenting book, article and hack out there!

🧡 The 3 Stands of Nurtured Heart Approach, why they're effective and how to start using them TODAY!

💙 How Nurtured Heart Approach works for parents, teachers, caregivers and educators!

Think just because you don't have kids this doesn't apply to you? Mwahahahaha! Think again. Really though: this masterclass is great for foster parents, educators, leaders, Aunts, Uncles and basically anyone who works with or has children in their lives! We FIRMLY believe ALL humans would benefit from watching and applying the tools we share in this masterclass!

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Our intention is to offer something to the Black Friday mix that is going to bring the ease, joy and fulfillment back to your relationships with kids, whether they are your own or someone else's. It’s our Black Friday Holiday Love Sale! Worth EVERY PENNY! It's the gift you can give yourself or someone you LOVE that will truly keep on giving!

So, lets recap! There are two ways to play:

1. Watch the Masterclass while it’s FREE, How to Transform the Intense Child and Become a More Awesome You by signing up here.

2. Or if you’re already ready to improve all your relationships, create more ease in parenting and have a lot more love of life (and your kids) then enroll in Camp NHA today!  More info and enroll by clicking here!

Got any Q's? Watch the free masterclass you'll get most of your questions answered there, then respond to this email if you've still got more. We're happy to let you know if this could be a good fit for your situation!

For those of you who celebrate the holidays and those of you who don't we LOVE you! Thank you for being a part of the Life Camp Community!

Stay Golden,

Star and Ruby

PS: When you're ready, here are a few ways we can support you closing the gap on who you are and who you want to be...

Feeling alone in left field on your healing journey? We've got you covered. Life Camp enrollment is open now, click here for all the details to jumpstart your ability to heal, integrate and confidently thrive no matter what you've been through!

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Going through a breakup or not sure if it's time to make some changes in your relationship? Grab our workshop, The Breakup Guide and get a 90 minute video deep dive with us, a workbook with journal prompts and exercises as well as a guided meditation and heart opening yoga flow!

 

Ruby & Star| LIFE CAMP

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